Many of Glow's contributors and readers are here to escape talk of religion—of God's plan, of our babies as angels, of life after death in some particular Heaven. But today's Kitchen Table discussion tackles questions of faith, something many of us do after the loss of our children. Some lose it. Some find it. Some, like me, limp along in a strange limbo. As if I'm still in shock, eighteen months later, from my son's stillbirth.Read More
1. We know that sometimes families talk less and less about pregnancy or infant loss as time goes on. What, if any, other losses in your family were revealed to you after your loss? What was it like to hear about those losses?
2. Did anyone who had already experienced babyloss reach out to you in the months after your loss? What was it like to connect with others who had already been through babyloss?
3. If any of those babylost parents were from a different generation, what did you find was different about your experience from theirs?
4. Did you attend a local area support group after your loss? What was helpful--or not--about your support group?
5. What role has the internet played in connecting you to other babylost parents? How has that been different from connections you may have made in person?
6. Many of us have found, as time goes on, that we are suddenly in the supporting role, as "experienced" babylost parents. How has reaching out to others with newer losses helped you in your grief journey?
7. How have you found yourself relating to other people's grief in general? What about people around you--friends, coworkers, neighbors--who have experienced the loss of other family members, not babies?Read More
Today we're writing and talking about the ways we have connected with others who have experienced babyloss. We're reflecting on how other people who have lost babies have helped and supported us, even when their losses have been under such different circumstances than our own.Read More
For this latest Kitchen Table discussion, our regular contributors write and talk about family—both the family we're born into and the family we choose, and the ways in which loved ones can and can't be there for us after the death of our child(ren).Read More
Babyloss parents often find themselves clinging to Auden's Stopped Clocks—the sense that life has frozen for us, and we're stuck in a (hellatious) moment while just outside our window, people scurry on with no idea what it is we're experiencing. For this Kitchen Table discussion, Glow's regular contributors explore the phenomenon of time—when there wasn't enough, or when it wouldn't stop.Read More
The holidays around the change from summer to fall are rife with ancestor worship, death, and touching the spirit-world. Samhain. Halloween. All Souls’ Day. Dìa de los Muertos. Something about the end of October conjures the thinness of the veil between the land of the living and the land of the dead. This month, Glow's regular contributors meet up at the Kitchen Table to chat about how we invite the dead into our homes, places of worship, and communities. Do we show lost loved ones a good time, with feasting, sweets, games, and offerings? How do we prepare for visits from the unloved as well—the restless, unhappy, malevolent spirits who might pop by to instill fear, extract revenge, or just toilet paper our lawns?Read More