I must admit-- it snuck up on me. Suddenly, it's dark by five and it's snowed twice since Sunday. Fall around here was a blur of pass the flu, and have you seen my deadline, but good things too, like sneaking away for a retreat or taking a short family vacation over Thanksgiving. And somehow in the midst of all the crazy, or maybe because of
it, I managed to not let myself dwell on the the impending change of seasons, to chase away any stray thought of it that snuck in univited.
Winter, which I used to love without reservation and which still contains many things I love, is now my grief season. A's anniversary isn't until the very end of January, but for the third year now, I begin to feel its approach with the change of seasons. I am thinner this time of year, more transparent. The wind blows straight through me, or maybe through a hole in me-- I can't tell. It whistles the tune of longing, of missing, of love.
Anniversaries abound in the bereavement blogosphere these days. But for those whose actual days come in a different season, and for those whose losses are too recent still for any -versaries, there are the holidays to contend with. Ubiqutous decorations, ever-present lights, mandatory good cheer. Cards in the mail, commercials on TV.
So I just wanted to stop for a bit and ask-- how are you? How is the season treating you? How are you taking care of yourself these days?
Come, sit a minute. Have some tea. Have some wine. Have a good cry. Tell us how you are.